Tips For Dealing With Sadness and Depression


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Before we get started, here is a short introduction (including a video)  to help you understand applied game theory, A POWERFUL TOOL FOR ENDING THE SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION. It is written for a child so anyone can understand it. Click below…



Q.  Lewis, I feel depressed all the time and I’m not sure why?

A.  Consider this. Maybe you’re not really depressed, but you just think you are. All of us are sad now and then, and in 2020 we may be more rather than less sad.  I deal with this issue all the time in my workshops on self-improvement, personal development, and self-awareness.

Based on old definitions, all of us are walking around clinically depressed. Look, some people are really, REALLY depressed, so don’t confuse, your confusion, and general dissatisfaction with your life with real, authentic, emotionally crushing depression.  You’re not really depressed, you’re just sad. We deal with this all the time in our workshops on

Serious, crippling clinical depression is the most commonly experienced emotional disorder and has been with us since the beginning of time. It has been known by many names including despair and melancholy. One of the reasons why this condition is so widespread is, in no small part, due to the fact that the term “depression” encompasses a wide range of physical and psychological symptoms. In its most extreme forms, suicide is a major risk of depression.


Why do I say “you may not really be depressed?”  Because it is hard to scientifically define what depression actually is.



It is hard to scientifically define what depression actually is.


Public perception and medical approaches to depression are determined by complex interactions among the public, the media, politicians, and the medical establishment. Depression appears in many forms and at many levels of severity. In the early stages of the condition, a person may experience a single symptom or a combination of symptoms that have come to be associated with depression. These symptoms may include loss of appetite, loss of interest in hobbies, various sleep disturbances (including insomnia), and loss of sex drive, among others. Having these symptoms does not necessarily mean that a person is in a depressed state. We all experience life events and challenges that challenge our mental and emotional balance. Healthy grief and depression due to extreme events may last a few weeks or even longer. Normally, a person will eventually come out of the trauma. But some do not. These individuals seem to sink deeper into a swirl of seemingly ever darker symptoms. When these symptoms last longer than three weeks or a month, and the individual experiences a weight loss of more than five percent, and/or is fatigued, has a loss of hope, a sense of despair, and slow and/or distorted thinking, then this individual may be experiencing clinical depression.


There are many different categories of depression. These include Chronic Depression, Manic-Depression, Seasonal Affective Disorder, Post-partum Depression, and more recently, classified forms of depression such as Atypical Depression and Double Depression. Some of these conditions are biochemical in origin or attitudinal, while others are combinations of the two.


The most common forms are known as situational depression and clinical depression. The difference between the two is defined by the severity and length of time of the depressed state, as well as certain biochemical factors that may have come into play.



To understand how pervasive depression is in the United States and increasingly throughout the world, you need only look at research findings and statistics:


  • It is estimated that between two and four percent of the United States population suffers from some form of clinical depression. The figures are even greater among specialized populations such as the confined elderly, hospital inpatients (especially those in life-challenging situations), patients under primary care, and the chronically ill.
  • About twice as many women as men suffer from clinical depression, except for manic depression, which occurs with equal frequency between both genders.
  • Men with clinical depression are more than twice as likely to develop coronary artery disease as their non-depressed counterparts.
  • The largest amount of depression occurs between the ages of 25-44, with an increased rate among those born since 1945.
  • Individuals with a family history of depression are more inclined to develop depression.
  • Those involved in ongoing intimate live-in relationships (married or single) have a lower rate of clinical depression than those living alone. Happily married men have the lowest rate. However, those men or women in unhappy relationships experience the highest rate of depression.
  • Research shows that one in ten people in the United States suffers from depression. However, nearly two-thirds do not get help or treatment because of symptoms.
  • “Siblings, parents, and children of those with recurrent depression develop mood disorders at eight times the rate of the general population.”
  • If present trends continue in the next 20 years, the number of depressed individuals will increase to the point that depressive illness globally will be the second leading cause of disability.


One of the great quotes concerning depression comes from the great Chinese Sage and mystic Chuang Tzu

“Joy and anger, sorrow and happiness, worries and regrets, indecision and fears, overcome us and then recede, with ever-changing moods, like echoes from the hollows, or like mushrooms on damp ground.  Day and night these alternate within us, but we are ignorant of their source…. If not for these emotions would I even exist? Who would feel my emotions if not for me? We can live life without knowing when these feelings will arise. It seems obvious that I have a soul, but the evidence of its existence is lacking. Its function seems obvious enough, though I cannot see its form. Perhaps it is inner reality without outward form”.



Sadness or what we believe to be clinical depression may not require professional treatment. Often these emotions may be a normal temporary reaction to life events, a symptom of some medical condition, or a side effect of some drugs or medical treatments. If you are constantly in a depressed mood, especially in combination with other symptoms, you may wish to get professional help. Antidepressants should not be routinely used for the initial treatment of mild depression, because the risk-benefit ratio is poor. A healthy lifestyle, a support group, life skills training, bodywork/massage, physical activity and many other approaches can have a protective effect against the emergence of depression.

Physical activity can also decrease depressive symptoms due to the release of neurotrophic proteins in the brain that can help to rebuild the hippocampus that may be reduced due to depression.] Also yoga, Tai Chi, and Creative Arts Therapy  could be considered an ancillary treatment option for patients with depressive disorders and individuals with elevated levels of depression.

Reminiscence of old and fond memories is another alternative form of treatment, especially for the elderly who have lived longer and have more experiences in life. It is a method that causes a person to recollect memories of their own life, leading to a process of self-recognition and identifying familiar stimuli. By maintaining one’s personal past and identity, it is a technique that stimulates people to view their lives in a more objective and balanced way, causing them to pay attention to positive information in their life stories, which would successfully reduce depressive mood levels.

Self-help books are a growing form of treatment for people’s physiological distress.


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Author: Lewis Harrison is an author, speaker, seminar leader, and Results-Oriented Life Coach. He has a passion for helping people solve problems, personal growth, self-improvement, and Transmodern Zen.

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LifeHacking, and Ethical Thought in Problem Solving LifeHacking, and Ethical Thought in Problem Solving

I was recently at a stress management conference and there was a panel on ethics and problems solving. One of the vendors there was The New York City Chair Massage Company –

This is what I learned talking to a chair massage therapist who deals with ethical issues constantly as one of the best massage therapists in New York City.

Some problems come about because we don’t understand the distinction between what is ethically right and wrong.

When I ask people about the difference between ethics and morality most do not have a distinction between these two concepts.

This distinction came to me when  I was teaching a course on hypnosis,  NLP*, stress management and leadership and someone asked if manipulating people was ethical.

This question requires more than just a yes or no answer. In my approach to problem solving and decision-making ethics and morality are different though for many social scientists they are interchangeable. It is generally agreed in most of the social sciences that morality is the study of what  makes  actions  right  and  wrong. The word ‘ethics’ is commonly used interchangeably with ‘morality’. I have always found value in applying a distinction between an individual’s sense of right and wrong (ethics) as opposed to a “group’s” definition. Ethics, in a personal sense of right and wrong may go against a morality imposed from the group onto the individual.

When strategizing to solve a problem, ethical behavior is a reflection of a person’s intent to act whereas morality becomes the rule of the game as imposed on all the players. This distinction becomes important when exploring ideas such as fair play or cheating.

There are many theories concerning morality and ethics. The practical element  of  all  this can become very tricky, and there are many ethical theories that deal with  complex  issues  related  to  perspective, duty, obligation,  personal or cultural values, codes of conduct  and social mores.


This is especially so when one is forced into a Zero Sum Game* where there can only be one winner.

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Who is Wilhelm Reich?

If you have an interest in Qi Gong, Corporate Chair Massage, Reiki, The Body-Mind Connection, equal rights for women, Tantra, Deep tissue massage, Rolfing, Personal Development, NLP, acupuncture, Polarity Therapy or anything thing related to mental health then it is important that you know about Wilhelm Reich.

This is a short history lesson on a major pioneer in psychiatry, bodywork anbd energy healing.

Wilhelm Reich (March 24, 1897 – November 3, 1957) was a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, known as one of the most radical and controversial figures in the history of psychiatry. Reich worked with Sigmund Freud in the 1920s and was a respected analyst for much of his life, focusing on character structure rather than on individual neurotic symptoms. He attempted to reconcile Marxism and psychoanalysis, arguing that neurosis is rooted in the physical, sexual, economic, and social conditions of the patient. His work influenced a generation of intellectuals, including and shaped innovations such as Fritz Perls‘s Gestalt therapy, Alexander Lowen‘s bioenergetic analysis, and Arthur Janov‘s primal therapy. He was one of the first psychoanalysts who explored the concept of Qi calling it primordial cosmic energy, which he said others called God, and that he called “orgone“.  As he aged he promoted more and more controversial ideas, many that later became part of mainstream thinking including the availability of contraceptives, abortion, and divorce, and the importance for women of economic independence.  He began to violate many of the key taboos of psychoanalysis, including using touch during sessions. His work was so radical in thought and scope and such a threat to the status Quo that in August 1956, several tons of his publications were burned by the FDA, arguably one of the worst examples of censorship in U.S. history. He was the author of several notable textbooks, including The Mass Psychology of Fascism and Character Analysis, both published in 1933. Reich’s work and ideas are among the most influential in the formation of the human potential movement of the last half of the twentieth century. His ideas on Orgone, sexuality, and the link between, energy medicine, natural healing and bodywork is core to many therapies related to alternative and complementary medicine including my own and has had a powerful influence especially in the work of Fritz and Laura Perls,  Alexander Lowen, Ida Rolf and others.

If you are a wellness professional or seek to move beyond superficial ideas in your work I recommend exploring Reich


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